When you love someone and the person does not love you back, it can feel like your world is crushing down. The pain you experience is very real. It is even scientifically proven that rejection activates a pain-sensing neuron in the brain that physical pains do. There is little you can do, should you find yourself in such situation.
Regardless of how painful it may be, you should know that you cannot control the other person.
I once updated my Whatsapp status with a fascinating post about loving someone who for whatever reasons cannot return that feeling, either because the person is being prevented by some impecunious circumstances or just wilfully ignoring that feeling.
Though, the post was not meant to escalate any discuss; just a mere exposition of poets and their work, it turned out to be the most viewed and commented about post.
The comments on the post made me aware of the fact that many people have or are experiencing similar situation in their lives.
In as much as you acknowledge pain of romantic rejection, you can only learn to get past the pain and move on with life.
As a Christian, you may think of it as unrequited love; to show how selfless you can be even in the midst of ingratitude. To shows the true character of your personality: the almost Christ-like character, unless of course, it is not fuelled by good intentions.
Looking at it this way will though not make you immune to pain, especially in the face of others whom you think are less deserving but are getting all the benefits. It only serves as first aid to hold you together from crushing down.
Even though, we do not love for reward, it is very imperative for the growth of relationships that each person’s efforts are acknowledged.
You know, some people stay on and try to push through it but if it is not relationship based on trust like siblings, parents or spouse to whom you are married to, it is not advisable to stay.
This is because, standing up for yourself in situations like this shows that you value yourself. According to a friend, she thinks a healthy relationship is the one in which two wholes who God has made whole for that matter to come together and benefit from each other and become one. It is rather not the two halves coming together to complete each other as previously held by many people.
I have the same opinion as she, in that, if only one is always benefiting, then it is parasitic. That is not what God desires for you, and it is not a human thing too. Humans love to be cherished. You too, need to be acknowledged for the part you play in other’s lives.
Till next time, this is from my mind’s mind.